Does this sound familiar?

After becoming a mum my children were front and centre, I became completely lost in motherhood, my identity and who I was very much got put on hold, as I put everyone else's needs before my own.

Can you relate?

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Caveat before we go any further, I love my children, as I know without question, that you love yours. But we can still feel these things and it's important to share that with one another. Ok let's continue...

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I was in this mum loop, of kids wake me up, breakfast, school run, park, lunch, nap, park, school run again, dinner and then the exhausting mini marathon that is bath and bed every night.

In amongst dealing with tantrums, validating feelings, reading ALL the parenting books, doing all the feeding, cleaning, washing, house admin, applying for schools, arranging childcare, playdates.... you know how it goes, on and on and on.

Don't get me wrong, there are many, many heart bursting moments of joy in there, snuggles, giggles and wet kisses but I was exhausted from doing it all, holding it all together and never putting myself first.

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I hit a point where I couldn't continue on any more.... I needed something more for myself, I needed to find me again (I was in there somewhere!) 

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Do you struggle to find time for you, do you feel like you're at the bottom of every list?

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Do you feel like you exist to feed, clean, nurture, meet every demand and then become taxi, chef, cleaner and referee?

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Your life is go, go, go - spinning plates in an understatement!

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Do you find it super hard to ask for help, it almost seems like a weakness, "I've got my shit together, don't worry about me!", " I'll keep going until the wheels fall off!"

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Are you feeling so overwhelmed with it all and you just want to get off this relentless merry go round of the mental load?

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I'm sure you hardly ever have 'down time', you can barely enjoy a cup of hot tea, let alone pee in peace! Do you feel guilty for stopping, even feel lazy when you finally do?!

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If you were like me, you just didn't see yourself as a priority.

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Do you feel like you've lost your identity, but you've been so busy 'doing' that you haven't even realised?

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You give all your love and affection away to everyone else and have none left for you.

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Investing in yourself feels hard, it feels not sensible, just not the 'right time', risky even.

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If it's not related to the kids, family life or work then it's just a nice to have!

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You feel guilty even considering spending money that is solely something for YOU.

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You relentlessly choose what is best for others but not what is best for you! 

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But do you have a dream or desire that you often think about but immediately squash because ..."who am I to want more?", " I should be grateful for what I have", "This is good enough."

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You may not have even spoken this dream or desire out loud to yourself let alone to another person.

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You have an idea but you don't think you can do it.

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You want more but don't believe you can.

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I see you. I hear you. I understand.

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I have felt ALL the above.

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But with some MAGICAL AF tools, I started to come home to myself and 2022 was the BIGGEST year of my life and I'm sharing it all with you and how I did it!